“My Style” // Stuck in a Fashion Rut

Hello Beautiful People

I’m a new face here (but not to Brey) and my name is Grace. Brey has so kindly invited me to be the first guest author on Ordinary Adventures! For which I am very grateful. Hopefully y’all like what you see 🙂 And hopefully you’ll be seeing me again.

I am by no means someone who experiments with fashion. Ever. Years and years ago, I found a decent style that suits me and I’ve been running with that since (usually jeans and a t-shirt… super fashionable). Recently, I‘ve been browsing Pinterest, pinning things onto a board I call “My Style.” About 30 minutes in (more like 3 hours), I realized I don’t wear anything close to these girls. I was calling something my style when it most decidedly wasn’t something I would wear on a day to day basis. But there were plenty of things I would want to wear. Outfits that suited me in ways I wasn’t bold enough to try.


So, where am I going with this? I’m not entirely sure. I’m not entirely sure why there are styles out there that I like but won’t buy. I’m not entirely sure why I stick to basic essentials instead of trying new things. And I’m not entirely sure why this realization bothers me.

Having a personal style is a great thing to have. You know what stores you like and dislike. You find outfits easily. Your pieces are consistent and reliable. However, when you find yourself pining after new trends, cool outfits, and bold makeup, but you don’t take the chance because it’s “not your style,” then you run into problems.

I let “My Style” (the imaginary thing, not the Pinterest board) dictate what I buy and do not buy even if it’s keeping me from buying things I like. There are always new trends out there, some of which are better than others. A lot of those trends don’t last, so sticking to classic pieces can be wise and economic, but you should know when to step out of your comfort zone. Use your style as a way to guide your purchases. Let it help you figure out what you’ll actually wear. Let it help you decide if that shoe will really work with the outfits in your closet. DO NOT let it restrict you.


After this realization of holding myself back from awesome fashion potential, I went out and bought a wine colored lipstick. I don’t wear lipstick often and if I do it’s probably the most subtle thing you’ll ever see, so this was new for me. I bought the lipstick because:

  1. I wanted to break out of the rut.
  2. I’ve been eyeing that style since it started popping up on my Pinterest feed.
  3. Lipstick is a small and non-committal product.
  4. Why not?

Just by making this purchase, I felt better. I know if I keep myself from talking myself out of purchasing products because of “My Style” then I’ll be able to actually try those outfits I like so much online.

Of course, you have to approach this change wisely. Don’t buy things that make you uncomfortable or things that don’t match anything you own. Don’t buy trendy pieces for tons of money because they might fall out of favor. Like I said before, your style can keep you from making poor decisions, but don’t be afraid to play around with fashion. That’s what it’s here for!


Here’s to breaking out of the rut!

Until next time,


10 thoughts on ““My Style” // Stuck in a Fashion Rut

  1. Great post and I’ve often done and wondered the same thing. I happen to think that having a personal style which lasts for many years is not a rut but a blessing.
    I do hope you return.

    Vegan Paralegal

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  2. I always feel in a rut, and I am always constantly loving the new styles but always afraid to try them out.

    BethyBeauty ❤


  3. I can totally relate with where you’re coming from! I’ve especially found it challenging to try new things when I’ve 1-been unhappy with my body and how I imagine I would look in what I consider to be cute, and 2-lived in places that are very casual so any step to be even slightly dressier than my normal jeans & tshirt would stand out and I don’t have the courage to take that step.

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  4. I have definitely been there! And sometimes even still there. Especially with the shopping! Jeans, and T-shirts are so easy, and I hate shopping. But recently I started to go outside of my comfort zone, and try on new things, and buy new things. So far so good, and even my boyfriend is enjoying them.

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  5. Nice idea, to invite guest authors! I like what Grace has to say about style… I’ve been a fashion enthusiast and even a small-time model way back in the dark ages of the ’60s and ’70s… but over the years I’ve come to realize that the best “style” is the one in which I feel most comfortable and “free to be me”. That means I now have a closet full of retro and vintage clothing that I am trying to sell on Etsy and Ebay!! Amazing how we can change over time! Thanks for your thoughtful post.

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  6. I dont know about you but Im 28 and in this weird clothing transition phase. The juniors sizes are too young for me and the ladies is too old styled. Plus Im a Mom but dont want the “Mom Style” so I get what your saying!

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